Life is short!

Last Thursday my husband lost his best friend. A friend that was like a brother to him. He can be found in some of our fondest memories. He was even the best man in our wedding. With his quiet temperament and his giving nature, he always seemed to make me smile. We were always laughing.

His name was Bobby. He was only 35 years old and he was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in April of this year. We researched what all this meant on our own and soon learned that Bobby was in this fight for his life. You see, the cancer was already stage 4 when they found it. We knew that this would take a miracle. Bobby was a fighter! He fought til the very end, harder than anyone I've ever seen fight, but in the end the cancer won and the world lost an incredible man. 

I find it very sad how it's so easy to say these things about a person after they die, but our pace of daily lives or maybe the fear of sounding silly keeps us from saying them directly to the person when they are alive and really should hear it. 

Tomorrow is the funeral. It will be the second funeral we will attend for a friend that was more like a brother. Like SteveO's funeral, we will gather at the funeral home. Old friends standing shoulder to shoulder, talking about memories of Bobby. About how much we love him and how much he will be missed. Then the conversations will turn to how fast time flies and that we should get together more often. How we should let conflicts from the past go and how we should stop having reunions at funerals. 

Well the truth is....life IS short. You never know when your time is up. You never know when your spouse, your brother, your sister or your best friend's time will be up. So, tell them you love them. Tell them how great you think they are. Tell them the things you would say about them when they are gone, because really WHO CARES if you look silly doing or saying these things. The reality is one day you may not be able to.

As my husband and I were saying good-bye to Bobby's dad in the hospital parking lot Thursday, he said "Go home and kiss your kids." And that's just what we did.

We love you Bobby and can't believe that you are really gone. You will be missed so much, but you will live on through your baby girl. See ya in heaven, one day. Tell SteveO we miss him.